T.A.P. Q#356 – She’s a Bully…But Only When She’s Alone With Me

Bullying is not only "top down". As your experience shows, it can happen between colleagues. Read my post; I think it will help. http://jobsearchingwithrob.blogspot.com/2009/09....

I'd find a way to either have a small recorder handy and record her abusive and unprofessional behavior or get someone you trust to listen in when she thinks she's alone with you then take it to HR and get an attorney just in case it goes further... There has to be some sort of solid proof so that this unacceptable behavior stops. I'd also consider mustering all of your courage and strength and stand up to her. Do it professionally but stand your ground and tell her that you are NOT going to take this sort of abuse any longer and that she'll be reported if it continues. Check with friends, clergy, police to get input about how to best handle this situation so that you remain professional and poised, and not lower yourself to her level. I agree that she sounds threatened so don't take it personally...Remain confident in who you are and stand your ground. Good luck!