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The Sledgehammer Effect – Words to Live By…Or Not

October 14, 2008 by sparktalk 

In my line of work, I often rely on quotes to get my point across. Why? They get audiences to step outside of their tunnel vision. It’s a way of giving participants the knock upside the head they need to see things differently. When it comes to talking about careers and the workplace, there are plenty of quotes that can deliver the sledgehammer effect. Here are some of my favorites…

If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.

I’m not sure who came up with it, but the first time I heard it, something clicked in my head. The idea that we can change a situation by changing our behavior made me realize how much power I have over how my life. The takeaway: it’s up to us to get the results we want. And this realization actually ties to the next one:

Everything in life is a choice.

This was first said to me by my seventh grade music teacher. I honestly don’t remember how we got on the subject, but the conversation was intense. A room full of students all shouted out examples of situations where we didn’t feel we had a choice, ie. do our homework or get in trouble, etc. She pointed out that it was still our choice, it was just that we didn’t like the consequences if we chose not to do the homework. We didn’t do a note of singing that day, but that teacher’s quote sang to me.

Speaking of teachers, here’s a quote I actually created as a teacher myself. I do a lot of work helping college students and young professionals make the transition into the workforce. I open my career strategy course with this:

You are not special, but you are unique. Career success comes to those who brand their uniqueness into something special.

I have great compassion for younger workers. They’ve been told that a college education is their ticket to career success. Sadly, they enter the workforce and find out that they haven’t been properly prepared. School doesn’t teach you how to be a professional. The result is a young person with their confidence rocked to the core, and a case of on-set career crisis. The solution is to help them connect-the-dots and gain back a sense of control over their future. That quote explains how.

And finally, there’s my personal favorite, which comes from my dear old dad, who told me early in life:

How far you go in your career will depend on how much !@#$ you are willing to put up with.

This is so true! You can look at work as a personal sacrifice or an endless opportunity to experience, learn and grow. When you do the latter, success seems to materialize. It’s the attitude that makes the difference in the outcome.

Now please know, there are also quotes I can’t stand. Here’s one that drives me nuts:

You can be anything you want to be.

I get the point of this quote, but people often fail to think of the ramifications of telling people today they can be anything. How do you choose from anything? What happens if you make a wrong choice? It’s like being told to pick a flavor of ice cream in ten seconds from a list of a thousand – what is supposed to be a treat turns out to be stressful. The idea of determining what you want to be when you grow up is outdated. Americans have as many as 9 careers in their lifetimes with an average of 3 jobs in each one. So, putting all your stock in the idea that you are only going to be one thing is misguided. I think the phrase should be reworked to something like this:

You can be anything you’re willing to put the mental and physical effort into becoming.

How’s that? Better?

Okay, so I’m asking you Careerealism.com readers, what quotes to you love or hate? Post them here and share why. Feel free to rework them like I did, if necessary. What quotes rock your world? What quotes make you want to hurl objects at walls?



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Comments

  • Rose Croke
    My best friend hates whenever I say, "It is what it is." She says that it is a defeatist philosophy. But, I totally disagree. Sometimes, in all fairness, things can't be changed (or they are fine the way they are). I don't view this quote as being dismissive or passive. Quite the contrary actually. I view it as a very liberating outlook on certain situations. You can't control everything. You can only control your reaction or perception of it.

    Rose
  • Ken Fried
    I'm reading a book now titled, 'Callings' by Greg Levoy and there is a great quote that jumped right to mind when I read this post. Though it's not as blunt and a bit more poetic, I think it really conveys a worthwhile and thought provoking point.

    "I have spent my days stringing and unstringing my instrument while the song I came to sing remains unsung."
    -Rabindranath Tagore

    Just like your music teacher, I think this quote parallels the idea that we always have a choice. From a more existential point of view I think we need to turn inside, and ask ourselves whether we have the courage and strength to make a choice at all. For me this quote really strikes a nerve and makes me rethink many of my actions (or lack of actions) relating both to my work life and my personal life and pushes to me to live a more decisive life.

    Hope others find this quote inspiring,

    Ken
  • JoAnn D'Agostino
    Thank you. This has been very insightful and inspiring.

    The motivation I need to move on to look for a safer job
    that I would enjoy.

    JoAnn
  • Josh Neal
    I also hate the quote, “You can be anything you want to be.” I think it’s vague and pointless to tell someone that. I am already overwhelmed with trying to narrow down my career search and when someone tells me “I can be anything I want to be” I get annoyed.

    But I do like this quote…

    “If you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life.”

    I like this quote because it gives me hope. Hope that one day I will find something I love to do and going to work everyday won’t feel like torture. I've heard from many people they hate their jobs but they can’t quit because they feel as if there is nothing else out there, especially some of my friends who graduated last year. I hope this doesn’t happen to me. I don’t want to feel like I need to take the first job I’m offered just because I’m over my head in debt from college loans. But if it comes down to it, and I need to for financial reasons, I hope that one day I will eventually be doing something I love to do.



    On the other hand, do you think if you do something you love to do, it will never feel like work?
  • Hank Merkle
    Patience is not the ability to wait,
    Patience is how you act while you are waiting! (I heard it from Joyce Meyer)

    As Steven covey says it - you have a choice to listen to the space between stimulus and response - if you react the stimulus is acting on you. If you respond, thoughtfully YOU act on the stimulus. (everything is life is a choice - Patience is how you determine the choice) ~ H. Merkle
  • richredman
    If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

    It means that sometimes when you try to improve something, you actually make things worse. The trouble is that people use it as an excuse not to look for improvements.
  • Recently I came across a set of interviews of Victor Frankl on YouTube. In them he expounds on the ideas of you aren't a product, you are our choices. (among other things) I found them/him very inspirational.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9EIxGrIc_6g
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KnWETfCaBmo
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jSSftFde5vo
  • The amount of good luck that comes your way depends on your willingness to act.
    - Barbara Sher, from "I Could Do Anything if I Only Knew What It Was"
  • My two recent favorite quotes are...

    “It’s not the will to win that matters. Everyone has that. It’s the will to prepare to win that matters.” Bear Bryant

    "I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have." Thomas Jefferson

    Both are pretty self explanatory.
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